Sunday, November 21, 2010

Sexually Healthy Youths!


What happen if you talk about sexuality issues?? Variety of respond will come out.The respond will range from openly discuss about it to stigmatized the topic and refuse to discuss it. It is not only about sex.It is about the relationship between men and women,XY with XX,mars & venus (you get the picture).

Islam is syumul(complete) that have guidelines in sexuality issues and on how we should behave among different genders. A sexually healty youth should feel safe with those who are known to be safe.

from An-Nur (24:30-31)
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is aware of what they do. (30)
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed. (31)

Who are the one who are known to be safe?? They are those who obeys these to verses in Al-Quran.. men who protect his and the womens' modesty..women who protects her modesty and cover her aurat (body)..Its all there in AL-quran the book of guidence for Muslims.

According to Mary Buxton,a certified sex therapist, A sexually healthy teen are those who appreciates their BODIES (even a non-muslim agrees on this). Appreciating your body in Islam is covering our body and also keep our modesty.

Sexually healthy teens are:

* those who take RESPONSIBILITY for their own BEHAVIOURS
-so,please be wise in any decision and do not blame others on your action because you are the one who is responsible for your own choice.
* COMMUNICATE effective and respectfully
-learn to say NO,protect and prevent yourself from being used.
* express love and intimacy in a way that is appropriate to their AGE
-choose SAVE sex instead of safe sex...SAVE it for the only one who already commit to you (husband/wife). Say NO to pre-marital sex!

remember this from An-Nur,24: 26...
Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision. (26)

Another issue related to medical profession...

you are a muslim doctor at a general private clinic. One day a Muslim colleage girl came and admit to you that she is sexually active and need you to prescribe her contraception pill. What will you do?

Some may say, I am a muslim, I am against this behaviour and I want to refer her to a colleague who agrees to do it.

However...what if she neglects it and take some other harmful medication or methods for her contraception needs? Who will be responsible if anything goes wrong?

The best thing to do is...

First, make a good rapport with her. Explain the consequences and advice her to get back to the right path. After that, give her the contraception as ethically it may prevent harm and provide beneficience to the patient. Pray that one day she will realize her mistakes and seek forgiveness form HIM (taubah)

Note: This issue was dicussed by Prof Harlina during her talk on Let's become sexually healthy youths! I just share what I got from her intresting talk.May it benefit me and you..Ameen :)

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